10. Managing Time
The management of time is a pressing issue for almost everyone. What advice would you give to someone like yourself, with family and career, who wants to live a spiritual ideal?
When time is pressing, as it is for most people, its necessary to prioritize. Ask yourself what is truly important and requires you to spend time on it, and what is less important. Whenever I hear someone say, "I have no time for that," I know what theyre really saying is that there are other things in their lives that have higher priority.
Time is obviously a precious commodity. We never have enough of it. There are many, many things that Id love to do if I had the time, but my list is too long to be satisfied even if the earth magically slowed its rotation so there would be an extra hour or two in each day.
For this reason, I know that there are some things Id like to do that will not be done, some capacities that Id like to develop that will remain potentialities. My advice would be that its necessary to determine whats on your list of things you need to pay attention to, and then set priorities for them. Those at the top of the list, such as my children, get first crack at my time. Those at the bottom may see periodic moments of my attention, but I have to resign myself to the fact that there are some things that I have on my list that I simply will not be able to do.
My kids are, and will always remain, one of my top priorities. When I come home, they virtually "claim" me, and I give them undivided attention. But there are times when I simply cannot give them that time and attention. Sometimes the flow of work at my job necessitates that I give attention to a client through the late hours of the night, and I might not see my kids for a few days at a time.
My spiritual practice also maintains high priority, but its level of priority for the most part has an entirely different quality to it. That is, spiritual life is practiced at the same time as playing with my kids or while negotiating a contract. Spiritual life is not something separate and apart from all the other things I need to do; its about the way I do all those other things.
Even the items at the very bottom of the list sometimes rise to the top. For instance, I used to envision that when I retired in a few decades and had more time I could explore my musical abilities. I was taken completely by surprise about a year ago when a melody came out of nowhere to grab hold of my mind and wouldnt let go until I gave birth to a complete song. That one was followed by two others. At this moment, theres very little percolating in my musical channels, so for all I know it may indeed be the day of my retirement that I start working on my next song.